When passion leaves us, life runs away from us hiding behind it.
We have commented in the writing ” PASSION AND TIME WALK TOGETHER” that the WALK-RWD system, by itself, creates a passion for the activities of walking, reading, writing and drawing, so that time passes without realizing. We affirm that the system generates a process of harmonization in our mind and body with these activities, placing us in an excellent stage of enthusiasm and motivation, subtracting hierarchy from all other daily obligations (social, family, work, religious, etc.). Now, in this post I would like to deepen the passion that awakens when we develop any activity.
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Let us take into account that there are two scenarios: the one in which we are far from having some passionate inclination towards what could call our attention by our own rational decision or by external conditioning; and the scenario of intrinsic passions, whose roots lie within us since we were born or we have been paying them over time, during the first years of life.
The first scenario is the most difficult to put into practice, since there is no latent inclination in our nature for what we want to be passionate about. In the second scenario, the work of igniting the passion is less difficult and we should only discover those actions that we are passionate about and proceed according to the method we describe for the first.
Let’s put it in a general way and then we will present the details of each scenario.
We can always find time to develop activities that we are passionate about. But how to achieve passion in the realization of things? Whether we are in the first or second scenario.
A person can become passionate about performing (developing) a certain activity if he manages to have great enthusiasm and pleasure in doing it, or that passion will be achieved if he becomes fond of or getting used to it. Getting fond to something is achieved when a positive personal feeling is associated with its realization (execution). In short, passion is achieved through extraordinary satisfaction in carrying out any action that makes you feel good and satisfied. In this sense, we must be aware of what we ourselves have experienced in relation to the attractiveness or not, with the satisfactory or not, that certain activities turn out. Some we do with reluctance, others with pleasure, but there are others, the least, that we do with passion. We say that an activity is carried out with passion, or passionately, when we feel immersed in a backwater, we abstract ourselves in time and space, we truly enjoy what we do and we isolate ourselves in such a way, that we are not aware of the time that has elapsed or where we are.
This is to feel the passion in the accomplishment of any activity, when we are in the process of its realization.
Now, for those people who believe they have no passion for anything, how is passion for something achieved? Is there any method or procedure?
Let’s get to the point of this major problem for the whole human being and quite unfathomable.
If we are not passionate about something, it does not motivate us.
When we feel rejection towards something, we must raise awareness about why that rejection.
The passion for certain activities is held by our own being (second scenario). However, we can be passionate about other activities that do not wake us up (first scenario).
Getting fond to something is one of the most direct ways to get passionate about any activity. The other is the habit. Similar mechanisms but they are not the same. Habit is a rational routine and discipline. We have already commented in the writing THE WALK-RWD SYSTEM AND THE HABITS how to achieve a positive habit. We expressed: with respect to the acquisition of a new habit, the repetition of an action is generally recommended, a certain number of times, and under certain identical conditions, until it becomes inherent to the being itself. Let’s go to its definition: Habit is the custom acquired by the frequent repetition of an act or action. It simply suggests what is in its essence of conformation. It is correct, however, in addition to the concrete action, the entire chain of links that lead to its performance and acquisition must be considered, becoming aware of the attitudes and activities that are exercised in a controlled environment, and of the behavioral behavior of the person who I am putting it into practice. On the other hand, getting fond is an inclination that is achieved when we associate an activity with a positive feeling and that is carried out with enthusiasm throughout its development. “Getting fond to” and “positive habit”, we can make them walk hand in hand.
Getting fond is a previous step to passion. In fact, when we know that an activity we are passionate about is because some time ago we became fond of it. Let us take into account that “getting fond” has 3 components: liked or enjoyed, enthusiasm (be keen on) and attachment. Each of them behaves independently but forms a unit; that is, they are co-responsible for the action of getting fond to.
The procedure is simple to understand, but it takes a little while to be fond of. Each of its components must be cultivated to achieve the required “getting fond to” and therefore, passion.
If we don’t like something, then we reject it.
If something does not excite us, it is because it has no interest for us, nor does it excite us.
If we do not feel attached to something, it bothers us or is indifferent to us.
Motivation and passion we must reach them in the same process, together, at an exact moment, so that they can sprout at the same time.
Now, let’s ask the following questions: Why do we reject it? Why do you have no interest for us? Why does it bother us?
If we respond truthfully to these 3 questions and analyze them deeply, we will find the possible “cause” and we can get to know ourselves better, as to what we feel and why we feel it. This will bring us closer to the “cause” for which we cannot become fond of that activity. If we look in the “cause” for positive aspects for each of the negative issues, we can take a firm step to get closer to it and start to relate better. Keep in mind that “getting fond to” is achieved through repetitive acts that, although consciousness rejects them, the neurovegetative system (Sympathetic and Parasympathetic) and the unconscious receives and processes them. Let the unconscious and these other systems that work of making the “cause” inherent to us and in a not very long term (3 or 4 weeks) will have created in us a “be fond of” that will begin to transmit, on an acceptable level, the passion for that activity that didn’t appeal to us before. There is no recipe to get passionate about something, achieve passion for someone or an activity; however, it should be noted that through certain considerations we can approach it. In general, each individual keeps in his interior a passion for some things and begins to realize it, until he manages to have contact with them. No one can say a priori that he has a passion for something, until he has the experience of his personal relationship or contact with that something.
Now, let’s comment on those considerations that we can take into account to ignite a passion for anything (first scenario).
1st Consideration. Let’s define what we want to be passionate about.
2nd Consideration. Let’s analyze that (objectively), according to our experience and inclinations – rational and sentimental – if we like it and if we don’t feel rejection for it. It would be almost impossible to achieve a passion for something that does not appeal to us, if we do not like or feel disgust (physical, emotional or mental).
3rd Consideration. Let’s make 2 written lists. The first list will be formed by the positive, good, pleasant, profitable, utilitarian, fun, valuable, healthy and beneficial aspects presented by what we want to be passionate about. Be it an activity like gardening or a sport, researching a certain topic, or simply contemplating nature. The second list will consist of its negative, bad and unpleasant aspects. What feeling causes us to imagine developing that activity (new or old) in my life?
4th Consideration. Let’s put ourselves in touch with each other or contact us with what we decide to be passionate about and observe our behavior regarding each of the positive aspects that we list in the 1st list: How we feel, the degree of satisfaction, the fatigue we feel, etc., and evaluate the intensity of its impact on our emotions Is its effect on us very positive? How excited are we? Do we feel pleasure? Do we feel passion? ( Future writing WALKING: FEELING AND ENJOYING).
Once we have completed this evaluation with each and every aspect of this list, let’s review the second list and re-analyze whether we were correct in its negative aspects. Let’s write new aspects, in both lists, or delete some. Let’s reconfigure the 2 lists.
5th Consideration. Let us repeat what is described in the 4th Consideration, with the 2 new lists. If there were no modifications, move on to the sixth.
6th Consideration. Let’s select a single positive aspect of what we want to be passionate about, the most positive and valuable. At most 2 aspects, but they should be implemented separately and independently, from this point. Let’s get involved – enjoyed or not – of what we want to be passionate about only through the enjoyment – or not – of that selected aspect. Let us observe our inclination towards what leads us to become passionate. Let us abstract from the rest of the positive aspects and especially the negative aspects. Let’s just enjoy the nice ones.
7th Consideration. (Second scenario) Regarding what we have said that each individual from birth feels an attraction (perhaps passion) for certain activities, and at an early age, unconsciously, he achieves certain habits and “be fond of” that incline him more and more than others, we proceed to discover those hidden passions through an introspection to recognize them and get in touch with them. The method is very simple, just remember what types of games or activities we prefer, or what kind of activities made us feel better, during and after doing them; there we will find our hidden enjoyed, enthusiasm and attachment, and thus we will discover the clues of our sleeping passions. Once identified, we repeat the procedure from the third consideration to the sixth, for each of these passions.
As an additional comment, I would like to say that the vast majority of the activities we carry out have negative aspects -or that are not very pleasant- that transform them into non-exciting situations. If we could only carry out these activities, without those unpleasant aspects, perhaps we could transform them into exciting moments or actions, all of them. For example, a person wishes to walk in the morning, but suffers from 3 unpleasant situations -for her- which are: getting out of bed, dressing and moving to the path. What does that person decide? Do not walk. However, walking for her is an activity that fills her with passion when she walks on the chosen path. For this person, the walk is exciting in itself, but not its collateral activities (ex-ante and ex-post). As a general recipe, we must be aware of what we have just described, because all human activities are like that. No activity takes place pristinely, all of them are collusions of others, and we have to look for ways that the negatives -or not very favorable- do not hinder those we are passionate about. Specifically -and following the example-, we will consider the pleasure of walking on the path, outdoors, without conditioning, without haste, with pure positive thoughts. Let’s not speculate on ex-post actions, such as returning from the path to the house, taking a bath and getting dressed again. Let’s think about what we can give ourselves: avoid the everyday, get rid of the usual obligations, and that we will introduce ourselves, for 30 or 60 minutes, in an “isolated tunnel” or a RECLUED ENVIRONMENT, where we will take to contemplate nature and listen to what our interiority will tell us on this occasion, that perhaps we had no knowledge of it.
PASSION LEADS US BY THE HAND FOR UNUSPASSED ROADS.
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